Patience is a Virtue.

As of late, I’ve been so grateful to have this blog because it’s served as an online diary for me. I consider myself an introvert, so it’s very easy for me to get lost in my thoughts. I’m constantly thinking of a multitude of things—new ideas, new processes, what I have to do when I get home, what I want to eat, how do animals communicate with each other—you know, a normal range of thoughts.

But lately, I’ve been absorbed in how much I despise the fact that I have succumbed to living life with an instant gratification mindset. They say that patience is a virtue, which I strongly agree with, but it does not help that we live in a society that is enabling us to be in an instant gratification mindset more than ever.

For example, we want food without getting up to make it or going out to pick something up—there’s Favor for that. You run out of anything in your home and are too lazy to go to the store to pick it up yourself—you can order it on Postmates. You want to “boost your confidence” so you post a new picture with a gorgeous filter and rad caption on social media to become instantly lifted when the likes start pouring in.

However, there’s a downfall to all of this—the instant gratification wears off just as fast as you obtained it.

The food you just ordered on Favor is taking an extra 15 minutes because they got stuck in traffic, you get the food and pay double the original amount due to a delivery and tip fee. The food is cold since it took so long to get to you, and you’re not as satisfied as you once thought you would be.

The same goes with social media. You post your photo thinking that you will feel better once all of your friends and family starting liking and commenting “oh, how pretty!” But the likes are slowly coming in, no one is commenting, you begin to get even more defeated than you originally were.

Isn’t it crazy to think that we are so reliant on these quick fixes to feed our instant gratification mind set? What happened to just trusting in the process, trusting that things are “hard” for a reason. That sometimes, you need to sit in the feeling of discomfort and uncertainty to reap the ultimate satisfaction.

I’m full of shame to admit that I have fallen short in this area—I have had the mindset that I know best and that nothing is truly that great to wait for. (HA!!!)

The good news is that I have a Heavenly Father who has already aligned a plan so perfect for me that it’s too much for my limited brain to even fathom. How cool is that?! That the Creator, the maker of the moon and the stars, has already laid out a plan for me—I just need to trust Him.

So, while I am no perfect example of trusting in the process—I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and in it’s perfect due time. Trust the process, no matter how hard it gets.

xo, Sarah

Turning Fearful into Fearless.

Fear seems to be a word that has appeared in my life more often than not lately. Being fearful, fearless, fear of the unknown, fearful to take a chance—regardless of the context, fear has embodied multiple conversations that I’ve been a part of. The weird thing about fear is that while we are literally afraid of fear, we’re also extremely comfortable with fear.

Think about it. We’re okay to be fearful to take a chance because it keeps us safe and sound in our comfort zone. We’re okay with fearing the unknown because if we don’t change a thing, the unknown will never happen—that’s how it works, right? But here’s the crazy thing, we become fearful when we’re on the brink of greatness.

When we get a glimpse of what life COULD be like, we get this pit in our stomach filled with many different emotions. Different feelings. A different outlook on life. Fear (a word I find synonymous for the devil) seeps into the cracks when he catches wind of us following the breadcrumbs to life outside of his realm.

That’s the thing about the devil, he likes to keep us on a short leash. When we listen to his lies enough that we begin to believe them, we’re hooked. Quite literally. We can’t escape that mindset because we can’t see beyond the lies. We believe that we have no control over the situation that we’ve found ourselves in. But that’s just the thing, we we’re given the freedom to choose; we have the power to choose a life we deem worthy of living fearlessly.

The thought seems crazy—to live a life fearlessly. Lately, that has swarmed my thoughts. Why is it that being fearless seems like an unattainable state of being? Why is that we’re so afraid to try something new, that may require a minimal amount of discomfort for a second, but ultimately gets us to a place full of boundless happiness?

Okay, maybe boundless happiness is a bit farfetched, however we can get a state of complete peace if we put in the work. The tiniest amount of discomfort could be the gateway to a rewarding life. A fearless life. A life we’ve always dreamed of. So what are we so afraid of?

xo, Sarah

Following Your Passions.

I’m always amused when I hear “find a job that you love and you’ll never work a day in your life” because I don’t think I truly believe in that statement. Sure, you should absolutely follow your dreams and lead with your passions when deciding what career path to take in life, but I think it’s misleading to say it won’t take any work. This might be blunt, but you will be set up for failure if you think that your dream job will come together effortlessly.

For example, you can be passionate about napping and Chick-fil-a, but the likelihood that those passions will lead you to a prosperous life is slim. You can be passionate about helping people and find a job that will be rewarding and fulfilling to you, but you will still have to work to ensure you are meeting the needs of those you’re helping while not overexerting yourself in the process.

Now I know what you may be thinking, “Sarah, didn’t you just launch this blog and claim it as your passion project?” You’re absolutely right! I took a leap of faith and decided to follow my passion, but it still took me work to get to this point—I don’t want to misguide you into thinking I’m arguing following your passions, I want that to be clear, I’m simply saying that it will take work internally and externally.

I believe that when you find what you’re passionate about, there will be some work to ensure that it stays untouched, untethered, and as pure as possible. In order to protect your mental health, relationships and overall work-life balance, you need to be diligent about removing certain parts of your career from your personal life. While I fully believe you CAN find a job that you truly love, it will still require some work, therefore “find a job that you love and you’ll never work a day in your life” holds no truth in my eyes.

Along that same thought, I also believe that we have created a culture that is OBSESSED with finding their calling and true passions in life. Now by no means am I saying that this is a bad thing, but I do think there are negative qualities that have been born from this mentality.

For example, I think we place a tremendous amount of pressure on college graduates (and young adults in general) to have life completely figured out. I remember when I was in my senior year of college, many nights were spent studying for tests and even more nights were filled with real-life talks with my roommates that typically resulted in a cry fest of not know what to do after graduation. Me personally, I think I cried more than the average graduate because I already place an enormous amount of pressure on myself due to being a semi-perfectionist—I am my own worst critic. However, I still think a fraction of the stress I was feeling stemmed from the overwhelming amount of questions I received from family members, friends, family friends—truly innocent people—wondering what I was doing post-grad. For some strange reason, college students are expected to have life all figured out even though life rarely goes according to the plans we set for ourselves…

So you see, I understand the intention behind following your passions in regards to finding your purpose and calling in life—and ultimately finding a career that marries the two. But to say that it will not require work is just not true. Anything that you want in life will take work—work on believing that the higher power you believe in will follow through on His plans for you, work on having faith to take a step into the unknown, work to keep your life balanced, and make sure it’s filled with passion. I think it’s safe to say we should dive deep and figure out what it is that makes us feel alive, even if work is required. After all, nothing worth having will come easy or without effort, so let’s lean into that mentality more.

xo, Sarah

The Start.

I have probably written, edited, and completely re-written this post at least 50 times (and I wish that was an exaggeration). For the past year, I have been wanting to start this blog as a way to get my thoughts down in the hopes of connecting with someone else dealing with similar emotions or feelings. For the past year, this blog has been unpublished, with loads of content saved as drafts due to fear of what others might think.

Think about the last time you were fearful of something. Truly fearful. Isn’t it crazy how fear can be a debilitating emotion that has the ability to control almost every aspect of your life? For example, you walk into a room and instantly become aware of your surroundings. Your heart starts beating fast and your palms start to sweat as you begin to think “Are they talking about me?” “Have I done something wrong?” “Am I good enough?”

We’ve all been there a time or two, but that doesn’t make us any less of a human. It makes us just that—HUMAN! Now, if you can’t relate to the above scenario, I’m sorry—I may be experiencing more fear than the average person (hellooo, my enneagram 6s!!), but I’m learning to work through it.

While fear is ultimately the enemy, it can also be the subtle nudge we need. I recently had the pleasure of hearing Christy Wright, from the Ramsey Solutions team, speak at the SMART Conference in Dallas, Texas. She spoke truth over us as she shared her experience and wisdom in pushing past fear. She gave one piece of advice that has really stuck with me—Fear is a normal part of the journey and usually indicates you’re doing something bold. Don’t wait until you’re not scared to do the thing you want to do, do it scared.

While I fully recognize fear will creep up no matter what, I’m choosing to embrace it. Acknowledge the fear, but do not welcome it to stay. When you choose to set your sights on your passion, and let that be your guiding force, the fear subsides. When you have laser focus, you cannot be bothered by fear.

So, here’s my first step in taking my own advice—publishing a blog post for the world to read for the very first time. If you’ve made it this far, I commend and thank you. I can’t promise you that future posts will not be as riddled with fear as this one, but I can promise you that they will be vulnerable, raw and oozing with thought-provoking topics that I hope will evolve into connection.

xo, Sarah